Every End is a New Beginning. Christmas reflections 2023

At the start of January 2024, I'll be officially starting a new position. 😄 I thank God for the many valuable life lessons learnt and people met as I went through this period of my life.

As with every new beginning, something good has to come to an end. As the Chinese saying goes: "天下无不散之筵席" (There's no banquet that does not end eventually.) I'm still in the process of grieving this bittersweet sense of loss as colleagues in my current organisation has been rather nice and helpful. No doubt, I'll be able to retain these friendships even after I leave but I do know that for the sake of my career it is a choice I have to make.

How did this materialise?

Back earlier in the year, I was actually trying to go for another internal role which eventually I was unable to attain. 

It was a rather difficult process through which I had to deal with alot of internal dialogue surrounding dealing with:

1. Sense of failure (but I know that all failures are mostly not fatal, and all successes not final) 

 

2. Self doubt (I thought I had it in me but maybe I was too full of myself) 

 

3. Negative outbursts (Dealing with my own personal emotions is a rather tricky thing, as employers may not like it when employees express unhappiness) 

 

 All in all, there was a time I probably wallowed for a while. And then, a headhunter came calling.

One door closes, another opens.

Still reeling from the pain and depths of defeat, my confidence was wrecked and at an all time low. I recall I was qualifying the recruiter multiple times: Are you sure you got the right person? Am I really the person you are looking for? 

It was funny but things went so smoothly through the rounds of interviews in double quick time that I really couldn't process it as quickly. When I broke the news with another colleague over lunch to ask for her advise, she mentioned: 是你的，就是你的，不是你的莫强求 "In life, something meant to be yours will be yours. Conversely, what is not yours can't be forced."

It was a funny rollercoaster of emotions:

1. Confidence: Confidence was wrecked totally and then built right back up. (Somehow internally, I'm not as valued as externally) 

 

2. Humility, and gratitude: If I had probably gotten the internal role, I might have been very proud of it. With this developments, it was almost as if it fell out of the sky (Not quite as I had really put in alot of effort) 

 

3. Mental Fuel: Turning emotions of anger, frustration, failure into fuel. I channeled whatever regrets and pain I had from the internal role to try my best for the external role.

Somehow, things went smoothly. Now, I'm quite sure that there will be new challenges facing me in the coming year. Come what may, life has to go on. 

Christmas is a season of Love and giving. I'm thankful for the people who rejected me and taught me life lessons, as well as for those who showed me care, concern and love. 

Merry Christmas 2023, 

Fellow friends and investors!~

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p.s. It's been really a long time since I have had the chance to sit down to blog and reflect. I will be looking at my portfolio which was started in 2018 to see what I can do to continue this journey! Thankfully, although I'm sitting on some paper loss, overall due to the dividend strategy I'm overall profitable. Hopefully, REITs will huat again this year with the FED cuts.

K.C.

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